TITLE IX

Sexual violence, sexual assault, and relationship violence are very real, complex, and disturbing issues. Normal feelings and reactions of victims/survivors include emotional shock, numbness, anger, disbelief, denial, fear, anxiety, confusion, loss of control, powerlessness, shame, embarrassment, depression, isolation, self-blame, guilt, and sleep disturbance. Here is what you can do to help and support a victim/survivor:

• Assume that what they tell you did happen.
• Show you care. Listen.
• Never blame them. Tell them you believe them.
• Do not judge. Remind them they are not responsible—the perpetrator is. Remind them that no one deserves to be abused.
• Let them know they are not alone. Guide them to campus or community resources.
• Remind them that their feelings and reactions are natural and normal.
• Seek guidance for yourself on what more you can do to help. You cannot support someone else if you are not supported yourself.