Tips for Supporting Victims/Survivors

Sexual violence, sexual assault, and relationship violence are very real, complex, and disturbing issues. Normal feelings and reactions of victims/survivors include emotional shock, numbness, anger, disbelief, denial, fear, anxiety, confusion, loss of control, powerlessness, shame, embarrassment, depression, isolation, self-blame, guilt, and sleep disturbance. Here is what you can do to help and support a victim/survivor:

  • Assume that what they tell you did happen.
  • Show you care. Listen.
  • Never blame them. Tell them you believe them.
  • Do not judge. Remind them they are not responsible—the perpetrator is. Remind them that no one deserves to be abused.
  • Let them know they are not alone. Guide them to campus or community resources.
  • Remind them that their feelings and reactions are natural and normal.
  • Seek guidance for yourself on what more you can do to help. You cannot support someone else if you are not supported yourself.

Title IX Office
Killam Library, Room 159B
5201 University Boulevard
Laredo, Texas 78041

Email: TitleIX@tamiu.edu
Telephone: 956.326857
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